To Vilify

Lately I have really wanted to vilify a few people. I wrote some angry posts on my private blog about them. The issue I had with these people is that they were suppose to be my friends. They are members of the church and are good people. Yet they extended an unfair judgement to me about being a stay at home mother. Either that I wasn't accomplishing anything truly important or that I couldn't of possibly gone to college because I already had two children.

Each assumption offended me because I have pride. There, I admit it. I have pride in my accomplishments and hate when people just assume that because I'm a young mother I must not have valued school or my education. Or the opposite, they think I am not accomplishing anything because I am restrained by two children now.

But I realized something that took me 4 post on my venting blog.

It doesn't matter.

I LOVE what I'm doing now and I am the happiest I have ever been. There are hard moments but every smile, giggle, and laugh is worth it.

So when people prejudge you because you are mother or a 'homemaker', know that I stand in solidarity with you. I will laugh and cry with you and in the end I know we will be okay because you are doing what is right.



Have you ever seen Mona Lisa Smile? I love this part from the movie

Joan Brandwyn: Do you think I'll wake up one morning and regret not being a lawyer?

Katherine Watson: Yes, I'm afraid that you will.

Joan Brandwyn: Not as much as I'd regret not having a family, not being there to raise them. I know exactly what I'm doing and it doesn't make me any less smart...

Katherine Watson: I didn't say that.

Joan Brandwyn: Sure you did. You always do. You stand in class and tell us to look beyond the image, but you don't. To you a housewife is someone who sold her soul for center hall colonial. She has no depth, no intellect, no interests...This IS what I want.


A wise teacher once advised me that it doesn't matter what you choose to major in, because you can always go back for more school. School will always be there. The same advise was given to me in the temple by a sealer when Matt & I went to the temple a few weeks ago. You can always have a career/more schooling but a family has a terrible shelf-life.

And now come my quotes from a prophet.

"Men and women often seek to substitute some other life for that of the home; they would make themselves believe that the home means restraint; that the highest liberty is the fullest opportunity to move about at will. There is no happiness without service, and there is no service greater than that which converts the home into a divine institution, and which promotes and preserves family life." Joseph F. Smith 1998


I am the happiest I have ever been. Throughout my school years I was a stressed-out, sleep-deprieved mess. Ask Matt or any of my freshmen roommates. But I'm balanced now. I worked hard in school so I could stay home. I did accomplish something more outside the home and now I'm using those skills to accomplish something greater inside the home.

"There can be no genuine happiness separate and apart from the home, and every effort made to sanctify and preserve its influence is uplifting to those who toil and sacrifice for its establishment." Joseph F. Smith 1998